Behind The Cover Club has chosen Michelle Obama’s memoir, Becoming, as one of its titles. Here you’ll be able to find out more about the book and Michelle Obama’s extraordinary life and her experience as the First Lady of the United States of America.
In her memoir, Michelle Obama invites readers into her world, sharing the experiences that have shaped her, from her childhood on the South Side of Chicago to her years as an executive balancing the demands of motherhood and work, to her time spent at the world’s most famous address.
With honesty and lively wit, she describes her triumphs and her disappointments, both public and private, telling her full story as she has lived it in her own words. Becoming is the deeply personal story of a woman who has steadily defied expectations and whose story inspires us to do the same.
"This is a vivid and interesting account and all of that is to her credit. I certainly thought better of her by the end: she has put her heart into this.'"- The Times
"A warm account of childhood, family and the trials of life as a first lady - and an undoubtedly political book.'"- the Guardian
'"Beautifully written memoir." - The Sunday Times
"An inspirational memoir that also rings true'"- the Daily Telegraph
"This revealing memoir offers new insights into her upbringing on the south side of Chicago and the highs and lows of life with Barack Obama... Becoming is a 400-page expansion of this essential doctrine ['When they go low, we go high'] without compromising a refreshing level of honesty about what politics really did to her. I have read Barack Obama's two books so far, and this is like inserting a missing piece of reality into the narrative of his dizzying journey' - the Guardian
Michelle Obama’s recommended reads
- Song of Solomon, Toni Morrison (Vintage)
- An American Marriage, Tayari Jones (Oneworld Publications)
- Educated, Tara Westover (Cornerstone)
- White Teeth, Zadie Smith (Penguin)
- The Light of the World, Elizabeth Alexander (Little, Brown)
- Exit West, Mohsin Hamid (Penguin)
- Commonwealth, Ann Patchett (Bloomsbury)
- Life of Pi, Yann Martel (Canongate)
Book Club questions
- Michelle Obama begins her book with a story about making cheese on toast, a few months after leaving the White House. Why do you think she chose this story to begin her memoir?
- In Becoming, Michelle Obama describes a number of women who mentored her at different times in her life. How important do you think it is for women to have female mentors?
- In what ways is the Obamas’ marriage just like any other marriage? In what ways is it different?
- Michelle Obama notes that the First Lady is a role without a job description. If you were in charge of writing the job description, what would you include?
- Why do you think Michelle Obama chose to call her memoir Becoming?
A Q&A with Michelle Obama
Read a Q&A between Michelle Obama and the Crown Publishing Group
Question 1: What was unexpected about the writing process?
The process turned out to be really meaningful for me. I spent a lot of time just reflecting and thinking, which is something I just didn’t have much time to do for about a decade. Once Barack began his campaign for president, every day felt like a sprint. So it was nice to decompress a little bit and ask myself, “How did I get here? Where did my story take a turn?” I uncovered a lot of smaller moments— moments that folks might not know about, but that I realized were really foundational to the woman I became.
Question 2: What did you hope to accomplish in writing your memoir?
My main hope was to create something that could be useful to other people, to give them something they could use in their own lives. So I focused on telling my story as honestly as I could. I’m not settling scores or giving a political play-by-play. I hoped to bring people inside the experience of growing up a working-class black girl on the South Side of Chicago who became First Lady of the United States. It’s all of me, all right there on those pages, which means I feel a little vulnerable knowing what I’m putting out there. But I hope if I can share my story, with all its ups and downs, then other people might have the courage to share theirs, too.
Question 3: You write candidly that your time as a lawyer was not a happy period in your career. What advice would you give people who are unsure about their path and who need a little help figuring out their passion?
If you’re someone who’s lucky enough to think about fulfilment in your career—and there are a lot of people out there who aren’t—I think the best thing you can do is listen to yourself. I mean, really, really listen. You’ve got to make sure you’re not acting on someone else’s expectations. That’s where I got stuck. I spent my early adulthood checking the boxes I thought society expected of me, before I realized that it was making me miserable. I went through a lot of introspection. I did some journaling. And I realized that what I really wanted to do was help people, so I set off on a career of public service. So what I’d say is do your best to listen to yourself and tune out the rest. A Conversation with Michelle Obama
Question 4: During your life you have experienced highs and lows but also so many unimaginable circumstances. How have you adapted to the unpredictability of the journey that has unfolded in your life?
I learned that sometimes you’ve just got to throw your hands up and let the roller coaster do its thing. There’s no guidebook for anything, whether you’re juggling two little kids, a demanding job, and a husband who’s got big goals—or you’re parenting two slightly older kids while figuring out which form of address to use with the prime minister seated next to you at dinner.
Question 5: You write about your inner struggle, at times questioning whether or not you’re good enough. Do you have any thoughts on how to stop self-doubt?
I may have had some successes in my life, but I can still feel the twinge of embarrassment from when I misspelled a word in front of my class when I was in kindergarten. I still remember the doubts I had about myself as a working-class minority student on an affluent, mostly white college campus. I think we all carry moments like that—and let me tell you, they don’t disappear when you suddenly find yourself speaking to crowded arenas and meeting the Queen of England. What’s helped is getting older and living through some of those doubts, and realizing they’re not the end of your life. In fact, they can be a new beginning. It doesn’t make the feelings any less difficult in the moment, of course, but in the end, self-doubt can actually be useful, as long as we don’t let it overwhelm the way we think about ourselves. It’s all a part of becoming.
Watch the Netflix documentary inspired by Becoming
Enjoyed listening to the memoir? Watch the Netflix documentary.